Welcome to my blog. I document my adventures in travel, my experiences as Black woman, and other things in between.
I 1000% subscribe to seeing a therapist, so if you can afford it, I highly encourage you to go. But if you can’t, here are some other methods of improving your mental health that I find highly therapeutic.
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." -Matthew 11:28-30
“It’s possible for you to live the life you want and love that life without…” - Rachel Cruz
“There’s always something to suggest that you’ll never be who you wanted to be. Your choice is to take it or keep on moving.” - Phylicia Rashad
When my Caucasian classmate described this man as “scary,” because his hair was wild and spirally, 21 year old me felt like it was my responsibility to wear my hair in its natural state…read more on spottieottieblackgirl.com
I went through a stage where I was truly a Trina STAN, and even now, I still love these songs.
For purposes of this post, I’ve included a number of Trina songs that have particularly given me the words, when I didn’t have them and an ally, when I needed someone who understands how it feels to go through it(whatever “it” is…there’s a song for it, trust).
In the words of my 65-year-old neighbor, “Find someone who’s going to love you. And if he’s not black, let him love you anyway.” Read more on spottieottieblackgirl.com!
He named me, Ifeoma. It was the Summer of 2018, and I was hanging out at Le Reve — a popular midtown bar that curated the vibes — with my best friend, who was visiting NYC for the weekend.We were standing by the bar, when this fella, who was clearly much older than me, but still young, started making conversation…
Remember that time I did a Podcast talking about Black Panther? Listen to it here!
There I was, drenched in water, after walking out to a downpour of rain. I was holding onto a big box containing a package I had delivered to my job, my hook-handle umbrella, my cross-body gym bag and my purse, struggling to get from my office exit to the train. I was stressed.
Amara La Negra speaks on the plight of Afro-Latinx during Black History Month at the Times.
"We as a people have lost our traditions," she said. "50 years ago, you would never hear that. We would be sending for people to come up and they would get here and we'd help [them] do what [they] wanted to do. You don't hardly hear of that anymore"
I was walking down 125th st and Malcolm X blvd, eating munchkins with my headphones in(read: minding my business💅🏽), when some guy rode by me with his head out of the window(trying to get my attention). Obviously a savage, I should've known then, but after he parked and approached me with some dignity, I went against my better judgment and gave him a chance anyway.
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